Just before the holidays, I learned something about mommy which shocked me completely. Mommy used to have a job other than taking care of me! There was a time when mommy wasn’t even a mommy. Instead, she was a career woman working in an office. Can you believe it?
It’s hard for me to imagine mommy as anything other than my mommy. For as long as I have known her, she has been my mommy every minute of every day. Being my mommy is just who she is. I can’t picture my mommy going to work every morning and sitting behind a desk all day without the distraction that is me.
I learned this about mommy because shortly before the holidays, mommy was supposed to go back to work. This is a shocking concept. How can I be without mommy? The only time I am not with mommy is when I am sleeping. It’s been this way every day of my life. I need mommy.
The best option for our family would be to get an extension on mommy’s leave from work. Mommy asked for an additional six months. That’s a long time! I’m already such a big girl. I’ll practically be an adult by then. Unfortunately, the company mommy worked for did not agree to the extension.
This caused a good deal of turmoil in our home. Mommy was worried and she talked to daddy many times about possible options. This is how I came to know the details of mommy’s life before me. It was a shocking revelation and a time of worry and uncertainty. If mommy were to go back to work, who would take care of me?
Mommy is smart enough to realize that I need her, and maybe she needs me too. There is nobody we trust enough who can watch me every day while mommy works, and mommy says that I’m too little for daycare. I don’t know what daycare is but I do know that I don’t want it if it takes me away from mommy.
With daddy’s support, mommy decided that the best course of action would be to quit her job. I was very relieved to lean this but my relief was short-lived. Mommy says this doesn’t mean that things won’t change for us. She tells me that she still needs to find a way to earn money for the family and that will mean less time with me.
Mommy assures me that any new job she has will not take me away from home. She says that any new job will have to be on a part-time basis and flexible enough to allow daddy to be home with me while mommy is away. I like daddy and playtime with daddy is my favourite, but I have never been home alone with him.
Daddy does take care of me when mommy is busy, but mommy is never far away. This will be an adjustment for all three of us. I would prefer that nothing change, but if change has to happen, then I would rather stay with daddy than a stranger. Daddy knows how I like things and he knows my routine.
There is still uncertainty in my life but at least I still have mommy for the time being. Daddy has been getting more involved with my care so that we can have a smooth transition when the time comes. I must admit that I’ve been enjoying the extra attention. Maybe this won’t be so bad.
Our family is at a junction point and change is looming on the horizon. We would all prefer to stay in our comfort zone and continue our lives as we have done for the past year, but sometimes change comes whether we want it or not. We are lucky to have the luxury of choosing the direction this change will take us. Some mommies don’t have any choice.
It’s not going to be easy. I know there will be difficult challenges for each of us, but we will get through them and we will adjust. Change is hard but it allows us to grow and that can be a good thing.